To Forgive or Not? 6/3 Friday Faith

Once a person wrote to a brother as follows:  "A brother has sinned against me, and I am not clear whether I should forgive him.  I therefore ask you to instruct me. My heart is quite composed before God. If you say I should forgive, I will forgive him.  If you think I should not, then I will not forgive him."  Brethren, what is your opinion about such a Christian?  

Suppose the one dearest to me is dead and so I write a letter to another person inquiring thus:  "He who is dearest to me is dead; should I therefore mourn?  If you say I should cry, I will cry; but if you say no, then I will not cry."  Most certainly you will laugh at such an inquiry, for it is absurd. If a person cries or does not cry according as he is told, neither his mourning nor his lack of mourning is real.  Both are false, and are therefore dead works and not life.  With your brother, you either forgive or you do not forgive.  Whenever you act on dead doctrine it is pretension.

--Watchman Nee